Supporting Your Student from a Distance
Advice for Parents/Guardians
- UC Santa Cruz is an amazing school, and you made the right choice in letting your students come here. You're not really letting them go, but allowing them to grow.
- Before your student comes to college, teach them to do their laundry and clean for themselves. Our laundry machines are not coin-operated, so they will not need quarters.
- Be very supportive, even if your student makes mistakes. Let your student learn the lessons from the choices they make.
- Your student's first year in college will allow them to explore new areas of interest, learn about themselves and take on more of an adult role. The best thing that parents can do is just be there as a support.
- Treat your student as the adult they are. They will be more open and communicative with you if you do.
- Although they are learning to become independent, care packages and letters are always comforting.
- Call, but not all the time. Your student is going to be busy maintaining academics, a social life, and good health.
- Encourage them to explore classes and figure out what they want to do.
- Keep in mind your student will be doing a tremendous amount of changing and growing over the next few years. It is important you remind them of your unconditional love for them.
Additional resources to help through this transition:
6 Tips for Parents at College Orientation
10 Tips for Parents of College Students Transition to College: Separation and Change for Parents and Students
- Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College By Patricia Paick
- Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years By Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller
- Empty Nest…Full Heart: The Journey from Home to College By Andrea Van Steenhouse
- Give Them Wings By Carol Kuyendall
- I’ll Miss You Too: What Will Change, What Will Not and How We’ll Stay Connected By Margo Bane Woodacre
- The Empty Nest: When Children Leave Home By Shelley Bovey
- The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life By Laura Kastner
- You Can be the Happy Mom of an Empty Nest By Darien Cooper
- You’re On Your Own (But I’m Here if You Need Me): Mentoring Your Child During the College Years By Marjorie Savage