Supporting Your Student from a Distance
UC Santa Cruz is an amazing school, and you and your student made the right choice. You're not really letting them go, but allowing them to grow.
Tips for Making the Most of College. Remind your student to:
- Focus immediately on time management. Create a schedule and stick with it!
A 5-unit course assumes spending 15 hrs/week on the class! This includes group study time, time in ACE and time with a writing tutor. Keep track with a time log.
- Get involved in residential life activities, an extracurricular activity, or service-learning.
80% of students feel they have grown the most from these kinds of experiences.
- Enroll in courses that are highly structured and have many assignments.
Students said they learned much more in these types of courses.
- See their adviser.
- For written assignments, write multiple drafts.
- Make connections between what happens inside and outside the classroom.
- Create or join study groups of 4-6 people. Create a writing consulting group.
Share 2nd or 3rd draft to check for flow of ideas and synthesis. Structured study groups include ACE (Academic Excellence Program) and MSI (Modified Supplemental Instruction) for some classes.
Symptoms of Trouble
- Not involved in any extracurricular activities or paid work.
- Not a member of a study group for even a single course.
- Only studying alone.
- Unwilling to seek help or share problems with an adviser.
- Poor time management.
- Not adapting study skills for college/thinking high school study skills are sufficient or appropriate for college. Instead, they should be spending sustained time on coursework, not 30 minutes here and there. Also, with many college courses, the goal is synthesis of material, not only regurgitation of facts.
- Taking only large introductory courses in a given quarter.
Their first year, student should explore various academic interest; take a mix of classes, not only large introductory courses.
Advice for Parents/Guardians
- Before your student comes to college, teach them to do their laundry and clean for themselves.
- Be very supportive, even if your student makes mistakes. Let your student learn the lessons from the choices they make.
- Your student's first year in college will allow them to explore new areas of interest, learn about themselves and take on more of an adult role. The best thing that parents can do is just be there as a support.
- Treat your student as the adult they are. They will be more open and communicative with you if you do.
- Although they are learning to become independent, care packages and letters are always comforting.
- Call, but not all the time. Your student is going to be busy maintaining academics, a social life, and good health.
- Encourage them to explore classes and figure out what they want to do.
- Keep in mind your student will be doing a tremendous amount of changing and growing over the next few years. It is important you remind them of your unconditional love for them.
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- I’ll Miss You Too: What Will Change, What Will Not and How We’ll Stay Connected By Margo Bane Woodacre
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